What Just Happened?

Many months ago, there was a guy named Dexter who messaged me. He seemed like a nice guy, very polite, and we got to talking. After a couple of messages I asked him to tell a little about what he does for a living. Turns out, he was laid off earlier that day.  He told me that understandably, now was not a good time for him to start dating since he needed to focus on finding a new job.  Then Dexter left.

Several weeks ago Dexter found me again. He had a new job and was ready to give this a second try.  Since it had been a while since I talked to him, I needed some refreshers. Once again, after several messages he asked if I'd be interested in going out.

"I'm new to this and I've never really done this before. So let's take this slow. Did you want to grab coffee or a drink sometime? Something simple?  I'm new to this and I want to take things slow," explained Dexter.

Is Dexter some kind of pu**y? I don't know, something about that turned me off. "I'm new to this- I haven't done this before- let's take things slow" and repeat.  It just seemed like he lacked confidence. Guess what? Have you gone on A date before? Then you're not new to this.  Maybe Dexter is just a nice guy who's shy and cautious, but my expectations are low.   I feel like I should give him a pep talk: Don't worry Dexter, everything will be okay. Just be yourself!  Anyhow, I decided to stick it out.  Even if he sounds like a bit of a coward, he still seems like a genuinely nice guy and I do like nice guys.

He asked me to set up a date, place, time etc. so I did. I waited for confirmation of sorts. A day or two later he responded, although not in the way I anticipated.

"Hey Alicia, I'm sorry but the more I think about it, I don't think we're really all that compatible. You seem a lot more outgoing than me, and you probably want someone older and richer than I am. Anyways good luck with everything and have a nice life."

What just happened? And where did this age and money thing come from? haha I'm at a loss. All I can say is I guess Dexter is braver than I thought! Or he just chickened out.