New Year, New Enthusiasm

Happy New Year everyone!  I realize it's been a while since I've posted something and even longer since I've written about an actual date versus a conversation with a retard.  Anyhow, let me catch you up.

So, back in 2009 I was talking to two gentlemen. I was trying to schedule a first date with one and a second date with another (yes, that means there was a good first date!).

Mr. First Date's name was Aaron.  At the beginning of the week it was decided that we'd meet at P.F. Chang's for dinner on Saturday 12/19.  However, the day before our date he sent me an email saying he had to cancel because his mom had just informed him that she was throwing a Christmas party that night and would "kill him" if he didn't go.  He said he felt badly because he never flakes, but maybe we could reschedule for Monday or Tuesday?

I'm not sure if I'm buying this "last minute party" story. Only because I think it's rather unreasonable for a mom to expect you to drop everything for a last minute party invitation.  Plus, how do you not know about a family party that's important enough to warrant death threats?  Couldn't he go to the party after dinner?  I don't know.  In either case, Monday and Tuesday wouldn't work for me so I wrote back to Aaron saying neither day would work but to have fun at his party.  I never heard from him again.  I wonder if his mom followed through...

Mr. Second Date's name was Keith. I had gone out to lunch with him a month before but then he had relatives visiting from out of town and he was going on vacation so it took a while before he had time to schedule a second date.  We took a look at our calendars and decided that Saturday 1/2 would work for both of us.  Well the days passed and I didn't hear from Keith in regard to Saturday's plans. Saturday came and went and still no word.  Okay, so I guess I can scratch Keith off my list of possibilities.  Several days later I get a text from him apologizing for standing me up.  Apparently time got away from him and he didn't realize that our date night had passed.  Keith, you only work three days a week. How does time get away from you?  He said it was no excuse for not letting me know about Saturday.  He's right, it wasn't, so I didn't text him back.

So, with a new year I have renewed hope in finding someone who is boyfriend material, because let's face it, if I really wanted a boyfriend I could have one. However, that would require a downgrade from my last model and I'm looking to upgrade. I'm looking for someone who's got his shit together.  Someone who is already established and has a career (not just a job), someone who is responsible enough to pay his bills on time and not ask me for a loan, mature enough to realize he better save his money so he can buy Christmas gifts, and someone with enough morals to know that stealing from your employer is not an acceptable alternative.  And lastly, I'd like someone who can read those last two sentences and think, "Well... duh!" These qualities were missing in my last relationship, and although he had an incredible personality and we got along wonderfully, I know that I can do better and I will do better.  No longer does a sense of humor cut any ice, if you still have the mindset of a teenager and not a grown man then I have to bid you goodbye.

With that being said, since my membership to this dating site is about to expire, I decided to try out some other sites to see if there was something better out there. My good friend referred me to a free site, which I'm now a member of, and I also took advantage of a week long free trial at another site. So at one point in December, I was a member of three dating sites! How do I summarize the end of 2009?  IT'S RAINING MEN!  I guess that would explain why I didn't have time to write.

Today, I'm only a member of two. I was not impressed with the site that offered the free trial.  By the end of the trial, I was communicating with maybe five guys outside of the site, but the thing is, because I was not a paying member they wouldn't allow me to view anyone's photos.  I had no idea what these guys even looked like!  Needless to say, the first time I sent them an email outside of the website, I promptly asked for a photo.  Based off the photos I received, I ended all but one of the communications.  Hey, let's not kid ourselves, looks do matter.  I'm not going to date a muppet.  These guys had great personalities and all of the other qualities I was looking for, but I'm not attracted to a guy who looks like the stereotypical nerd you see on TV shows.  A guy who's a nerd at heart, that's cute, just don't look like one please.

Anyway, I have a date tonight (wish me luck), a potential date on Monday, and another date in the works! Let's just say 2010 is going to be the year of love... I can feel it!